Do you have an arsenal on standby with a giant coping skill list? Does it feel like you need 99 coping skills just to function in life? What if that’s not actually helping you? Your list of coping skills is probably pointless. Don’t freak out and stop reading, though. I’ll explain why I say that. Yes, positive coping strategies are …
Do you feel like you’re emotionally needy? Do you read quotes about selfish people and relate to them? Do you wish you were the opposite of demanding or needy? If you’re answering “yes” to these questions, this post is for you. I’m going to explain why you are emotionally needy. Here’s a hint…. Just like in most of my posts, the …
What is emotional validation? Did you receive it in your childhood? Do you practice self-validation now? Emotional validation is the act of someone positively acknowledging/validating your feelings. It means that you are not shamed for your feelings and that those feelings are not dismissed. Were your feelings dismissed in your childhood? If so, then not only did you not get …
Cumulative grief is probably not something you’ve ever thought of in your life. Instead, you probably wonder, “Why do I hate my life.” You have buried grief and sorrow about the life you thought you would or should have by now. You think you’re stuck with decisions for life and can’t change anything now. Oh, how you are wrong. You …
Do you truly have love for yourself or could you easily say, “I hate myself?” Learning how to love yourself more is a hard journey. There are many things you don’t like about yourself. You can’t truly have love for yourself until you can accept those things. It is hard to be okay with the things you hate about yourself. …
What defines you has nothing to do with your trauma. Sit and think about that for a minute. I bet you’re not aware that you’ve allowed your trauma to be what defines you. You believe you have healed trauma in your life, but that probably isn’t so true. Due to your unhealed trauma, you don’t know how to identify yourself. …
There are many reasons to end a friendship with yourself. Does that sound weird? Probably so, but I promise that there are many reasons you need to end a friendship with yourself to create peace in your life. If you’re a bit confused as to why I am saying you need to end a friendship with yourself, bear with me. …
Think about what a child needs emotionally. Were those basic needs of a child met for you emotionally? Does it feel like your childhood was lacking love that you so desperately needed? Everybody knows that a child needs love, but many children are still lacking love. Sadly, many parents fail their children due to their inability to truly love a …
If you don’t prioritize yourself, you are saying, “I don’t matter.” Neglecting self-care means you have no self-worth. That is never true for anybody. Have people said, “Please take care of yourself?” Do you roll your eyes at that? Don’t roll your eyes at that! Your mental health matters, which means you matter. In order to begin believing that, you …
In today’s world you often hear you need to learn to love yourself, use self-loving affirmations, and self-care is important, plus many more. Those all sound nice but can be pretty hard to actually do or believe. What is the reason for that? There is a root belief deep down that says, “I don’t deserve love.” Trust me here. If …
