what others think of you is none of your business

What Others Think of You is None of Your Business (Not My Problem)

“What others think of you is none of your business” is a phrase we have all heard. We are also told “don’t take anything personally.” Those two phrases are great in theory but very difficult to apply. For years, I believed that everything somebody did was aimed at me and meant something about me. That left me feeling angry and …

Children are Resilient

Children are Resilient is a Lie (Inner Child Therapy)

Children are resilient. How many times have you heard that phrase? Probably way too many to even consider counting. You’ve probably also heard “children live what they learn” or some form of that phrase. For me, those two phrases contradict one another. Recently, I started thinking about that phrase “children are resilient” and whether or not I believed it. I …

Connecting with Yourself

Connecting with Yourself (4 Easy Steps)

Connecting with yourself can be an incredibly difficult task. It’s not something that the majority of us were ever taught. On top of that, you were probably taught to do the exact opposite, which was not to focus on yourself or your feelings. If you struggle with connecting with yourself, that’s because you don’t know how to get in touch …

high-functioning anxiety symptoms

High-Functioning Anxiety Symptoms (Learning to Feel Safe)

High-functioning anxiety symptoms are something that everybody has experienced at some point in his or her life. So, don’t beat yourself up for having anxiety at times throughout your life. It is normal. The difficulty with high-functioning anxiety symptoms arises when those symptoms match the criteria for an F41 diagnosis, which is Generalized Anxiety Disorder. When the symptoms become more …

Healing the Mother Wound

Healing the Mother Wound

Healing the Mother Wound is one of the hardest things you will ever try to heal. The reason for that is that the importance of a mother in our lives is so great. Whether you want to admit it or not, we need a mother to be there for us. When that doesn’t happen in a healthy way and in …

Emotional Needs

Struggling to Get Your Needs Met

Why is it so hard for us to ask for what we need? Now, go even further than that and think about whether or not you even know what you need. Our needs are just another one of the many things society has gotten incredibly wrong. Society has taught us that we aren’t supposed to have needs for the most …

Coping Skill List

Bye Bye Coping Skills (How to Heal Yourself Emotionally)

Do you have an arsenal on standby with a giant coping skill list? Does it feel like you need 99 coping skills just to function in life? What if that’s not actually helping you? Your list of coping skills is probably pointless. Don’t freak out and stop reading, though. I’ll explain why I say that. Yes, positive coping strategies are …

why set boundaries

Why Set Boundaries (You Teach People How to Treat You)

Why set boundaries? Hopefully, you already know the answer to that. In case you don’t, the answer is to teach people how to treat you. Think about how much time you have spent being angry because people push boundaries you feel they should’ve known. How much time do you spend being angry when it seems others aren’t respecting you? It …

Be Proud of Yourself

Learning How to Be Proud of Yourself

Do you struggle to be proud of yourself? Do you play small? Are there times when you’ve downplayed your accomplishments? Were you taught to be humble and not boast? You may tell yourself, “I am not worthy of the life I want.” That emotional insecurity actually prevents you from creating the life you want. If you want to begin changing …

Align with Your Higher Self

Creating a Personal Mission Statement

If you want to align with your higher self, you must spend time doing a personal values assessment. That may sound scary, but I’ll tell you how to do it. It’s not hard or scary. You may struggle with knowing what you want in life. I bet you have had a lot of what you don’t want in life. Changing …