Attention-Seeking

4 Ways We Teach Kids Attention-Seeking Behaviors with Social Media

It’s common knowledge that kids today are addicted to screens and social media. As adults, it’s easy to see the attention-seeking behaviors of kids and teens on social media. They are determining their self-worth based on how many likes or followers they get on social media. An explanation of the damage this causes is not needed. However, what is needed …

No Trauma but Still Depressed

I had a good childhood and I’m still depressed

My childhood was not traumatic. So, why am I depressed? For many, that is a million-dollar question. If you have had no trauma but still depressed, then why is that? Do you beat yourself up with comments such as, “I don’t have any reason to be depressed,” or “So many others had it worse than me?” As a psychotherapist, I’ve …

Grieving the Loss of a Living Parent

Grieving the Loss of a Living Parent

Grieving the loss of a living parent is one of the most difficult things one can face in life. Yes, grieving the death of a parent is incredibly hard as I’ve experienced that also. However, to have to grieve the loss of a living parent produces a pain that is often indescribable. From my own personal experience and experience as …

Constant Sarcasm

Constant Sarcasm/Criticism: 6 Helpful Steps for Dealing with It

Do you know people who use constant sarcasm? Does it seem that they are incapable of having a genuine conversation without constant sarcasm? Are there people you know who use criticism about you or others every time you’re around them? Do they try to act like their constant sarcasm or criticism is a joke? Why do people do this? For …

Emotionally Unavailable Parents

Emotionally Unavailable Parents: 5 Steps to Heal

Many people lack the unconditional love they should receive from their parents. Emotionally unavailable parents are the reason. When you were a child, did you see how loving and affectionate other parents were to their children? Did that make you wonder why your parents couldn’t show you the love you needed and deserved? Most children create a damaging answer to …

Self-Care

What is Self-Care: The Mysteries of Discovering What That Means for You.

Self-care has become a “trendy” word in the last decade or so. We spout that everybody needs self-care. Meanwhile, many of us struggle with anything and everything related to self-care. Often, we don’t even know what self-care might look like for ourselves. Not only that, but we also don’t know how to create time for it. Before we look at …

Being Strong

Society’s Definition of Strong is Wrong

Society’s definition of being strong is wrong. How many of you were told throughout your lives, starting in childhood, that you needed you needed to be “strong?” What did people mean by that? What were you supposed to do or not do in order to be considered “being strong?” For most, being strong meant to hold your emotions in, pretend …

Negative Self Talk

The Creation of Negative Self-Talk

Everybody has some level of negative self talk, but where does it come from? There are so many possible answers to that question. Unfortunately, it often begins before we are even able to speak. As babies, we hear our caregivers tell us who they believe we are. Often that is unknowingly negative. Examples of this are, “He’s such a needy …

Souls Searching

Not Good Enough Stuff Explanation

There are so many souls searching for peace. However, Not Good Enough Stuff can get in the way. That prevents healing those souls searching for peace. You may be wondering how I came up with the name of my blog. During my life, I have had many roles. For example, I am a therapist, a friend, a sister, a daughter, …

Repressed Emotion

Anger is Often Repressed Feelings of Sadness

What do you know about repressed emotions? How many times have you believed you were so angry that you cried? How many times have you actually cried and stated that you were so angry that you cried?  Have you ever stepped back to think that crying was not a typical “symptom” of anger? It is simply a repressed emotion of …