Emotionally Unavailable Parents

Emotionally Unavailable Parents: 5 Steps to Heal

Many people lack the unconditional love they should receive from their parents. Emotionally unavailable parents are the reason. When you were a child, did you see how loving and affectionate other parents were to their children? Did that make you wonder why your parents couldn’t show you the love you needed and deserved? Most children create a damaging answer to …

Grieving the Loss of a Living Parent

Grieving the Loss of a Living Parent

Grieving the loss of a living parent is one of the most difficult things one can face in life. Yes, grieving the death of a parent is incredibly hard as I’ve experienced that also. However, to have to grieve the loss of a living parent produces a pain that is often indescribable. From my own personal experience and experience as …

Negative Self Talk

The Creation of Negative Self-Talk

Everybody has some level of negative self talk, but where does it come from? There are so many possible answers to that question. Unfortunately, it often begins before we are even able to speak. As babies, we hear our caregivers tell us who they believe we are. Often that is unknowingly negative. Examples of this are, “He’s such a needy …

emotionally needy

Emotionally Needy? (Emotional Needs of Children Aren’t Met)

Do you feel like you’re emotionally needy? Do you read quotes about selfish people and relate to them? Do you wish you were the opposite of demanding or needy? If you’re answering “yes” to these questions, this post is for you. I’m going to explain why you are emotionally needy. Here’s a hint…. Just like in most of my posts, the …

Parent Children Relationships

Parent Children Relationships

Parent Children RelationshipsParents love their children, but often get lost in their own Not Good Enough Stuff.The relationship between parents and children can be the most difficult to navigate. This part of the Not Good Enough Stuff blog is like a parenting blog. It can teach you ways to parent your children in a way that is emotionally healthier for …

lacking love

5 Signs You Were Lacking Love as a Child

Think about what a child needs emotionally. Were those basic needs of a child met for you emotionally? Does it feel like your childhood was lacking love that you so desperately needed? Everybody knows that a child needs love, but many children are still lacking love. Sadly, many parents fail their children due to their inability to truly love a …

self-loving affirmations

8 Self-Loving Affirmations: Learn to Love Yourself

In today’s world you often hear you need to learn to love yourself, use self-loving affirmations, and self-care is important, plus many more. Those all sound nice but can be pretty hard to actually do or believe. What is the reason for that? There is a root belief deep down that says, “I don’t deserve love.” Trust me here. If …

Generational Curses

Family Generational Curses Cause Dysfunctional Relationships Full of Guilt and Shame

Generational curses of dysfunctional relationships stem from codependent behaviors we learn from our families, often as very young children. All families have dysfunctional relationships to some degree. Unfortunately, the majority of families I’ve seen have taught one another very unhealthy behaviors that cause lifelong struggles for us. The main tactics that keep these dysfunctional relationships going in a family is …

Souls Searching

Not Good Enough Stuff Explanation

There are so many souls searching for peace. However, Not Good Enough Stuff can get in the way. That prevents healing those souls searching for peace. You may be wondering how I came up with the name of my blog. During my life, I have had many roles. For example, I am a therapist, a friend, a sister, a daughter, …

No Trauma but Still Depressed

I had a good childhood and I’m still depressed

My childhood was not traumatic. So, why am I depressed? For many, that is a million-dollar question. If you have had no trauma but still depressed, then why is that? Do you beat yourself up with comments such as, “I don’t have any reason to be depressed,” or “So many others had it worse than me?” As a psychotherapist, I’ve …